 communicate so that i am not just be like nobody understands me you know um and i think that this movie did a great job of of giving us tools where instead of being like it hurts my feelings that you would say that okay it's like oh that's your anger talking let me talk to your anger for a minute then maybe i can get back to your joy or to you you know but i might have to get through your anger first and being armed with those tools of communication is so valuable