 and get a feel of what everybody's saying so in in fact saturday night we ran out the door shut off the meatballs and my husband said let's go to he's got a big family said everybody's over at my sister's house for just getting together sitting on the yard let's go over there and talk to people said okay we're the ones who live in the boonies everybody else is still in warwick so we did we jumped in the car it was just that feeling of we gotta be around people and talk about this what is going on