 that there was that awful gap there for a moment. So then I could begin speaking about loving kindness, and that opened some doors. And then one day I remembered very deeply, Deepamal's words, and I realized, you know what? We are gathered here together not for anyone to experience my expertise in something or my brilliance. We're gathered here because we all suffer, that we can find one another in that vulnerability and in that tenderness, and together we can go forward.