 you needed a follow-up okay and then we met our we got married we had children we both got divorced and then we we met up again later on and we always kind of we always kind of wonder you know what would have happened if 1.0 didn't but you wouldn't be the same people today exactly yeah exactly it's one of those things where like looking down that road that you didn't take it's just not it's not worth it it's never never like pays off to what you think it's