 so you kind of forced the hand a little bit had to yeah and many many levels but talking to billiam you get a sense of two things one that billiam knows how to hustle and get things done and two the new pulse weddings were a defining moment in his life when i asked him to tell me about the big day to start at the beginning so to speak he goes all the way back to christmas eve 1982 when his father kicked him out of the family home for being gay