 And this is maybe even one of the paradoxes of our argument, because on the one hand, we're saying it doesn't matter how anyone became queer or trans, because there's nothing wrong with being queer or trans. On the other hand, it actually might matter to the person who's queer or trans how they came into the queerness or transness. And it matters because it's also been made to matter. Because if you belong to a minoritized group in the society, you're constantly asked to