 the looking around and making sure our family is feels okay feels right right and so i want you to sit down tonight take her out somewhere nice in san diego and she's going to say no i thought we were on a budget and you said i'm just pausing it for for one meal and i want you to take her out and i want you to put your spreadsheet because i know you knucklehead i've already put this in a spreadsheet and i want you to what however you've mapped it out i want you to put it on the table