 for a week or a month or two and then you're over it then it's like all right you're a little too thoughtful now this is a good little why do you need to know my every move i get it that's one way to look at it they're like oh my god he cares i feel secure somebody know where i'm at somebody know what i'm doing i feel covered i feel cared for and i feel like if there's a problem i can call somebody y'all keep it locked that's one way to look at it i got another one