 you can make you can make something out of yourself if you're poor as dirt if you join the military but you've got to be smart well and there's true there there are always examples of people making it but but i think if we look at statistically it's the rarity more challenging it's more challenging and then that's that's you know we just but we gotta we gotta start looking at ourselves do we care about that do would we rather have the good story or do we want a good solution