 Period. Not, I'm so sorry for your suffering. Have you tried XYZ? Have you done this? Have you gone to the, that's not helpful. When somebody is struggling, the very first thing you should do is acknowledge their reality. I'm so sorry for your struggle. I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's not fair. It's not supposed to be this way. I'm so sorry. Then after you acknowledge that suffering and give them some time to respond and