 uttered right yeah but i know parenting is changing generally generationally is that okay now is telling your parents to shut up like a normal thing jack have your kids ever dared one kid did once but uh yeah no that was not okay it did not go well okay because right i just i don't know if there's if that's a shift that's happening where the way you talk to your parents is changing but the way that the mom didn't react i'm sitting there going what