 you know, with kids and their parents and there's not communication really till it's too late. And then there's a lot of pain and resentment on both sides and everybody's pushing away or whatever. And a lot of times parents, people in my generation are just, they don't know what to do. And, you know, they're caught off guard or they try and do the things that they think will work. And it just, whatever it is, but, but this thing about, about core horror,