 kind of interpreting two different messages. One is, like you were sharing at the restaurant, you've got to put them in the high chair. And then another side is we parents can focus too much on the rules or being too strict on things. I'm curious what that balance is practically when I'm in the restaurant. Where do I bend? Where do I not? I hope you're hearing balance because it is a balanced attack. Using a sport analogy, you can have a great offense, but there's not a defense.