You can't change the fact that highly stressful events happen, but you can change how you interpret and respond to these events.
What we say to ourselves radically affects the quality of our lives, and our ability to do things effectively. You can't change the fact that highly stressful events happen, but you can change how you interpret and respond to these events. When difficulties arrive in life, you can practice being kind and understanding rather than self-critical.  You can give yourself support and encouragement rather than being harsh and judgmental.