That’s a natural response for caring and intentional parents.
I know: right now, many of the decisions you’re making for your child seem hugely significant. You may feel a lot of pressure to do the “right” thing, and you probably fear you’re going to do the “wrong” thing. That’s a natural response for caring and intentional parents. But the truth is that whether you start with veggies or fruits for those first solid foods, or whether you use cloth or disposable diapers, or whether you use a pacifier — none of that’s going to determine how your child turns out. I have good friends who raised their babies very differently from how I did — sometimes even on some larger, discipline-related issues — and we can all say years later that we all ended up with great (but not perfect) kids. Yes, some decisions are really crucial, like using car seats and observing water safety. And likewise, it’s critically important to commit to being emotionally present for your child, and to set clear and loving boundaries. But for many of the decisions, you can gather your information and make a call, knowing that the fate of the world likely doesn’t rest on what you decide.