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It is vanity and egotism; and when seen in a grown woman casts a very poor reflection upon those who had the charge of her bringing up from earliest childhood. If you are shy, Caroline, take yourself sternly to task, analyze what makes you so, and overcome it. IT IS VANITY AND EGOTISM AND WHEN SEEN IN A GROWN WOMAN CASTS A VERY POOR REFLECTION UPON THOSE WHO HAD THE CHARGE OF HER BRINGING UP FROM EARLIEST CHILDHOOD IF YOU ARE SHY CAROLINE TAKE YOURSELF STERNLY TO TASK ANALYZE WHAT MAKES YOU SO AND OVERCOME IT
 attribute of breeding. Another defect girls often have is shyness, and very few people stop to analyze its cause. Shyness, when we have got down to the bedrock of it, is pure personal egotism. People are shy because they fancy others are observing them. If they were not so conscious of themselves they would not be obsessed with this idea; they would realize that they are probably not really very interesting, and may never have struck others’ consciousness at all. But no--the perpetual, ever-present perception of _self_ makes them awkward, makes them wonder what effect they are producing, makes them nervous and the prey of every foolishness. Whereas, if they were not so sensitively occupied with their own feelings, they would do natural things without a tremor. I have no patience when I hear a woman in a great position being excused for stiffness and brusqueness by the plea of, “Oh, she is so dreadfully shy!” It is not real humility--real humility would not be conscious of self at all.  THAT TRAINED EASE WHICH IS THE HIGHEST ATTRIBUTE OF BREEDING ANOTHER DEFECT GIRLS OFTEN HAVE IS SHYNESS AND VERY FEW PEOPLE STOP TO ANALYZE ITS CAUSE SHYNESS WE HAVE GOT DOWN TO THE BED ROCK OF IT IS PURE PERSONAL EGOTISM PEOPLE ARE SHY BECAUSE THEY FANCY OTHERS ARE OBSERVING THEM IF THEY WERE NOT SO CONSCIOUS OF THEMSELVES THEY WOULD NOT BE OBSESSED WITH THIS IDEA THEY WOULD REALIZE THAT THEY ARE PROBABLY NOT REALLY VERY INTERESTING AND MAY NEVER HAVE STRUCK OTHERS CONSCIOUSNESS AT ALL BUT NO THE PERPETUAL EVER PRESENT PERCEPTION OF SELF MAKES THEM AWKWARD MAKES THEM WONDER WHAT EFFECT THEIR PRODUCING MAKES THEM NERVOUS AND THE PREY OF EVERY FOOLISHNESS WHEREAS IF THEY WERE NOT SO SENSITIVELY OCCUPIED WITH THEIR OWN FEELINGS THEY WOULD DO NATURAL THINGS WITHOUT A TREMOR I HAVE NO PATIENCE WHEN I HEAR A WOMAN IN GREAT POSITION BEING EXCUSED FOR STIFFNESS OR BRUSQUENESS BY THE PLEA OF OH SHE'S SO DREADFULLY SHY IT IS NOT REAL HUMILITY REAL HUMILITY WOULD NOT BE CONSCIOUS OF SELF AT ALL
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