وهو أيضاُ خلق جو سحري من الثقة بيننا عن طريق اعترافه بسره، الذي كان أنه ،في عمر صغير جدا من بداية عمر الرابعة كان يتعرض بطريقة وحشية ومتكررة للاعتداء الجسدي من زوج أمه، والاعتداء وصل لمستوى سيئ إلى الدرجة التي تسبب في خروجه من المدرسة في الصف الثامن، مع أنه كان ذكياً جداً، وقد قضى حوالي العشرون سنة يعيد بناء حياته.
And he also created a magical atmosphere of trust between us  by confessing his secret,  which was that, as a very young boy starting at age four,  he had been savagely and repeatedly physically abused  by his stepfather,  and the abuse had gotten so bad that he had had to drop out of school in eighth grade,  even though he was very smart,  and he'd spent almost 20 years rebuilding his life.