But none of that will do any good unless you prevent the mistakes that can set you back, the unnecessary searches for explanations, idealizing your ex instead of focusing on how they were wrong for you, indulging thoughts and behaviors that still give them a starring role in this next chapter of your life when they shouldn't be an extra.
Men intet af det vil gavne dig, hvis du ikke undgår fejlene, der sætter dig tilbage: den unødvendige søgen på forklaringer, idealisering frem for fokus på alt det forkerte vedkommende gjorde, tanker og opførsel, der giver denne person en hovedrolle i næste del af dit liv, skønt de end ikke  bør have biroller.