And remember that often what you're really telling her is that she shouldn't be pushing herself, that she's really not good enough, that she should be afraid.
و به یاد داشته باشید پیام اصلی که به او می دهید این است که او نباید به خودش فشار بیاورد. و اینکه او واقعا به اندازه  کافی خوب نیست. و اینکه باید بترسد.