Right now as we sit here he is tearing through your apartment.  He is digging through your drawers emptying your closets.  He will take your telephone and address books your appointment books.  If you keep a diary he is reading it.  He'll go into the kitchen and find out what kind of food you eat liquor you drink cigarettes you smoke.  In the bathroom he will find any prescription drugs you take and where you get them filled.  If you have video tape or recordings he will watch and listen to all of them.