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Mar 14 g commented on Gaydolph Hitler, World's Most Notorious Bi-Phobe, Helps Out a Young Bisexual.
@52: Thanks for the clarification.
Mar 12 g commented on Gaydolph Hitler, World's Most Notorious Bi-Phobe, Helps Out a Young Bisexual.
I know I'm going to get torn a new one for trying to, well, say just about anything, since this is the internet, but oh well. Anyway, I feel like there's an attitude, and part of what I remember Dan going on about over the years, that bisexuals take the chickenshit route and "hide in heterosexuality." But I think there's merit to what some people have said in these threads about coming out as bisexual not being the same thing as coming out as gay, or publicly identifying as gay or straight. This seems incredibly obvious, but I don't know if it is, so: if you are gay and you don't come out, you are by definition living a can't tell people about who you are dating or who you love. If you are bi and in a relationship people assume you to be either gay or be monosexual. Good or bad. Democrat or Republican. Top or bottom. We're just a binary world for the most part, so let's not pretend that's not so. It just is what it is. A bi man who is in a long-term relationship with a man doesn't have the same incentive to run around telling people he's also attracted to women that a gay man would have for people to know he's gay. He's not hiding who he loves if he neglects to tell people that. People who meet him and his partner don't automatically know he's bisexual. If he was with a man they would assume he dated men and that he was gay and would probably be right about the former and quite often right about the latter. If he was with a woman, the same for the straight side. But for bisexuals it's just not the same. Just living your life openly if you're a monogamous bisexual person isn't an act of being out.

It doesn't mean that bisexuals shouldn't come out. But it's not the same as sharing your orientation is for monosexuals. It's just not. To pretend that it's simply a matter of wimping out or "hiding in heterosexuality" (or monosexuality, more accurately) ignores the complicated reality of the situation. If a bisexual is always open about who they are dating, isn't that living as out of a life as out homosexual or heterosexual people do? It seems that bisexuals are being asked to be *more* out than monosexuals in a way.

Anyway, just some thoughts. Some probably way too obvious everybody-already-knows-this thoughts. Except that it seems like not everybody does. Anyway, I apologize if they came out imperfectly.
And, Scary, you seem to be saying "no conversation." I'm trying to participate in a conversation, so I think I'll ignore your request, thanks anyway.
Slog is Dan's personal blog? And did you mean "whiners"? Didn't realize I was whining. Just trying to, y'know, share an opinion in the comments, like bloggers generally want people to do. Sorry to hear that Dan doesn't give a shit about what I, specifically, post. Thanks for speaking for him. I guess I better shut up and go away now. But before I do, can I ask what the point of YOUR post was? No back and forth allowed here in your opinion? Just chime in and praise whoever writes whatever Slog post we're discussing? Sounds pretty boring.
And since I remember that last time I posted a little snark in one of the 37 threads like this I got a heartwarming "fuuuuuuuuuuuck you" from Dan, I'll say something more direct and sincere. Well, I would if @34 and @38 hadn't gotten there first and so eloquently. Okay, I'll try anyway. Yes, Dan, you've done a lot of good. "It Gets Better" is obviously great, and kids in the heartland being able to read your column is a good thing. But I really don't understand your blindness on this issue. This whole recent spate of posts was started when you linked an article and wrote a headline something like "Closeted Bi Complains About Bi Invisibility" and then proceeded to act offended when a few people thought you were being unreasonable to post the story with such snark yourself, and further to accuse the writer of being closeted when she was writing for publication and signing her name. You seemed, in her case, to be saying that if she hadn't been out since puberty, fuck her. I've been reading your column on and off since The Stranger started and I used to cringe at your incessant "bi's don't exist" stuff, which you wrote for YEARS, and which continued well into your radio show years. I understand that you've evolved a bit, but then again, here you are incessantly posting these "woe is me" posts about how maligned you are by bisexuals, or how if someone bi like the above letter writer supported you, then anyone who has an issue with what you've said at times should be ignored, is unreasonable, is against you, etc. It just feels, as someone else said, immature, and also frankly kind of petty. And it feels like something someone would do if, say, they still held these biases against your issues with the topic can't help but bubble up to the surface. I hope you can read this (and the posts from those much more articulate than me) and understand that to take issue with some of your words on bisexuality is not to think you're "Gaydolph Hitler." It would be nice if you could manage to actually engage some of these comments instead of being so dismissive.
Biphobic? Some of my best friends are bi!
Mar 6 g commented on Chatterbox: The Internet Is Talking About Republican Racists and the Alleged Bitcoin Guy.
Nobody bothered by the tons of auto-tune in the Annie trailer?
Mar 3 g commented on SL Letters & Tweets of the Day: An Enemy of the Bi People.
How many more posts you going to do complaining about how maligned you are by the horrible, overly-sensitive bisexuals, Dan?
Feb 17 g commented on SL Letter of the Day: Time to Expunge.
Although maybe that was some kind of satirical comment regarding that post's question that I am too tired to parse correctly. So I withdraw. However, not so sure bringing up some kind of groping fantasy with one's date = acting like a rapist. So, maybe I'll stick with my first instinct: if someone acts like a troll, they're probably a troll.
Feb 17 g commented on Rich People Willing to Pay $60 for a Pound of Coffee, Just to Remind Themselves How Rich They Are.
They're all over eBay. I saw some in a thrift store awhile back and had a sudden rush of remembering that they even existed. You'd need to get some really shitty powdered creamer and maybe some Sweet n' Low packets to go with 'em.


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