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The PP said it well!!!!
I don't think your legal advice is completely true. Yes, a court may decide that he has no rights. However, he has every right to TRY, and you do not need a lawyer to go and file paperwork. It is damaging for kids not to know the truth about their parents and situation, I really hope that you start the court process asap; hopefully they will appoint a guardian for the child, who will ensure his best interests are met. Good luck!!! 
Have you made a therapy appointment yet? He cannot and should not be alone with the other kids, which will be stressful. I'm sorry you are having to deal with this. It is possible that with counseling and therapy and lots of work, it may be a safe environment at some point. But in the meantime, no, not safe at all. I would put a door alarm on the outside of his door so you will hear if he opens it at night (they are cheap), and keep your kids in your bedroom until you...
Is your husband also reinforcing that they are not to parent the 5yo? While some of this is normal, yes, it sounds like the 15yo is not understanding the guidelines or is understanding and thinks he knows better (also common, lol). 
I pay 20/month unlimited talk/text through airvoice wireless. If you have an att phone or any gsm unlocked phone that takes a sim card, all you do is buy a sim an then pay each month. I have the 10.00/month plan for my son :) Anyway, airvoice, straight talk, and others are good and you can get unlimited for 20.00 or less. Totally worth the cancellation fee in my opinion.
I hope that some wise mamas chime in! I have experienced this a bit in that dh's ex is a "buddy" parent, but since we only have dss about 20% of the time it isn't as much an issue as it is for you. It still comes up, though, like dss doesn't do his homework and gets crappy grades yet has no consequenses for that (or anything else). It's so frustrating to be so powerless, I can certainly relate to that.  
Your family has gone through a HUGE change, I would be surprised if everything was going smoothly! It is normal for there to be chaos and behaviour issues with this type of transition, an of course you feel frustrated! It will take a while for everyone to adjust, what is important is routine, consistency, and communication. Is your partner able to help? Do you both agree on house rules and how to implement them (such as no rough-housing, name calling, bullying, etc) and...
I'm so glad you found a solution that works for everyone, seems like a great plan!  
I was reading and could see both sides until I saw that the step son is only 6. Is this right? If so, um...he doesn't need his own room nor should he get to make that call. I assumed he was closer to teenage, and had been used to having his own room for 12+ years, and entering the teen phase is a rough time to go from your own room to sharing. But really, it is silly NOT to have him share once your little one is in his own bed/room. I think your compromise in using the...
I can see where you are coming from; that he won't back you up, and a simple "I don't want to discuss this" with her would be backing you up. There is no real reason for her to "have" to speak to you, and rather than dropping it, she is asking your dh to ask you to unblock her. Do I have that right? He could easily take himself out of it by refusing to discuss it, or by actively backing you up; instead, he is doing nothing. Unfortunately, men who defer to their exes is...
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