I haven't actually ran across a lot of men who hate curly hair. Personally for me, it would be a dealbreaker, so maybe that's why. To me, someone telling me I need to start straightening is no different then someone saying I need plastic surgery. Someone asking me once to straighten, I say a big no, and forget it, but if it keeps coming up, or they were to say they don't like my curls, then I'm gone. Curly hair is part of who I am, physically and psychologically. So it's like saying there's a big a part of me that they don't like. And I am who I am, love me for it, or move on.