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Sex after baby?


My husband and I have not had sex in almost a year! Baby is now 4 months old, what is wrong with me? I don't feel like having sex but want and need to. My marriage is a huge part of my life and my husband is not rushing me or bothering me about it but I know that sex is a part of marriage. I need ideas on how to get back into bed with my husband who I love VERY much!

Posted: 06/23/2008 by hamilt0n

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I know how your feeling. I think we went a month before the baby and just "got back in the saddle" and our baby is now 6 months. You just have to make yourself do it. Make-out, hug, and just think about how fun it used to be. Hang in there!
posted 01/07/2009 by Smallbellykelly
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I understand 100%. Having a baby can be a traumatic experience. Not to mention healing from birth. It can take a toll on your love life. Sex is an important part of being married. If you don&#8217;t do it because of it is painful then that&#8217;s understandable. If not then your husband deserves the Best Husband of the Year Award! Honestly, you need to do a self evaluation to figure out why you can&#8217;t seem to get into the mood. You could try introducing new things in the bedroom. With all the weird hormone activity in your body it is common to feel a little &#8220;dry&#8221;. You may find that using a good lubricant helps the mood. Also there are certain smells like lavender and foods like peaches that are natural aphrodisiacs. I used them after I had my daughter and couldn&#8217;t get past my fear of sex. I used this website to help get me started. It may take a couple of tries to find out what works best for you, but when you fall off the horse you just get back on (pun intended)!I hope this helps.
posted 07/18/2008 by ChaniB
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I was feeling the same way. My problem is that i still have alot of pain 2 months after giving birth. After seein the doc. @ 6 weeks he told me to use a lubricant and take it one step at a time and before birth i did not have sex for a month and a half so i could imagine what my husband felt cuz i was frustrated. We tried the first time was hard i could not go throught with it, so we just did other things after that we continued trying now it's like old time even better cuz it'll happen unexpectedly our son is sleeping :-) Hang in there and keep trying
posted 03/26/2009 by a BabyCenter Member
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