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Sex Ed Boot Camp educates students on sex practices

The 12-foot penis projected on the screen was received by the audience with uncomfortable laughter, while stress balls shaped like grenades were thrown to audience members who could answer basic questions about sex. K-State Student Union’s Forum Hall was intended to be a judgment free zone on Monday night. Later on, a picture of a vagina elicited an equally uneasy reaction.

Joni Frater and Esther Lastique, two touring sexologists who give sex education presentations to college campuses, led a Sex Ed Boot Camp for all those in attendance. They said they knew some people were not at ease with the giant picture of a penis.

“In Kansas it causes giggles,” Lastique said. “In Mississippi it caused coronaries.”

Despite the silly antics, the lecture managed to disseminate information on everything from safe sex practices, why water- and silicone-based lubricants are better than oil-based lube, and even discussed methods that make sex more fun.

Frater and Lastique argued that everyone should masturbate so they can inform future partners about what works the best for them. In fact, both presenters said males should wear condoms when they masturbate, and should experiment so they can find the best fit that gives the most pleasure.

“If you don’t take care of your privates nobody else will,” Frater said.

Throughout the presentation, the pair emphasized a perceived cultural divide between abstinence-only sexual education and an informed approach to sex, and they said guilt could prevent people from fully enjoying sex.

“You’re hearing all the crazy voices in your head, like your mother and your pastor, that say ‘Good girls don’t do that,’” Lastique said. “Yes they do, they just hide it.”

The program was interactive and drew questions from audience members who asked questions ranging from “How do you achieve a breast orgasm?” to “Do drugs inhibit orgasms?”

The audience also got stress ball prizes after correctly answering questions like “How long is the average penis?”and “How long does it take somebody to orgasm?” or “Would anyone use a sex doll and penis plug?”

Penises average about six inches in length and orgasms are reached after an average of about three minutes for males and 10-15 minutes for females, Frater and Lastique said.

The duo also advised partners to use condoms in oral and finger play because sexually transmitted diseases can be spread accidentally if partners switch to intercourse afterward.

Carriers of the Human Papillomavirus, or HPV, can increase the risk of throat cancer in partners if they have oral sex, Frater said.

“Our goal is to empower and to erotically enlighten you,” Frater said. “We’re not advocating everybody go out and have sex after this.”

But the lecture also encouraged students to be responsible in their choice of partners. The presenters said sexual partners should always discuss how far they want to go, and the different activities they want to participate in before having sex.

They also advised audience members to discuss number of previous partners, whether either one has a sexually transmitted disease, as well as making sure to set a clear rule about using condoms. Sex under the influence of drugs or alcohol was also discouraged.

Communication was one of the most common themes of the night with Frater and Lastique emphasizing communication during sex so both partners can orgasm.

The two said if sexual partners have trouble getting someone to orgasm, they could always offer to masturbate in front of each other.

Alex Stingo, sophomore in elementary education, said the presentation was entertaining and informational.

“The fact that old people now have STDs is really disturbing,” Stingo said. “Also, oral and finger play is not fully safe. It’s better to have full on hot sex.”