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Parents bitter towards my pregnancy

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RyceForsyth wrote:

Was anybody else's families extremely bitter towards your pregnancy?? I'm 21 years old and my parents HATE my child's father... I'm 4 months pregnant and met my boyfriend 5 months ago... Was not planned, just sorta happened. Not exactly in the most ideal situation but I work part time and I'm a college graduate... They get angry when I buy my baby supplies (diapers, wipes, sleepers, clothing, etc), cut me off and are cold when I talk about my pregnancy, and when they get upset about their own situations in their own personal lives they direct it towards me and the unborn child.. They've told me it's going to be hard to love a baby who shares the same DNA as my child's father, they've threatened suicide and told me it was my fault because I'm pregnant, attempted to kick me out and told me to go *** my child's father again... They're so angry and bitter, my brother tells me he doesn't want to be called "uncle" and he doesn't like the baby.... They want me to cut out the child's father completely and raise the baby on my own, he isn't perfect but wants to be involved and is getting help for himself in order to be a good father and SO to me... When I first found out I was pregnant they told me I ruined my life and persisted I terminate.... God I feel so alone

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Holy crap! Have your parents always been so dramatic? Living with them seems very unhealthy for you and baby. Is there anywhere else you can go? What did the boyfriend do that makes them hate him so much?


As you're working part time and are unmarried you can get financial assistance to help support you and baby so there's less financial stress in your life. Go to a school and ask to speak to a social worker or go to planned parenthood. WIC is fantastic and provides money for food and basic needs for baby and I think you could start using it now in pregnancy. You can also get financial assistance for day care. I know this stuff is out there, I just don't know where you should go to get it. I guess searching online would be a good first step.



My SO has a criminal past... Currently serving a 40 day sentence for breaches in probation a couple years ago (trial just happened now) use to be a biker... 29 years old.. He is much different then the man he use to be, and is currently straightening his life out so he can provide a good life for all three of us... Very stressful situation :(



Do they have planned parenthood in Canada???



Okay, I can see where your parents are coming from. You and the boyfriend are in a very tough position and it will be made harder for him (and you) bc your parents will only ever see his faults instead of how much he is growing and changing. I am sure your support for him means so much to him!


I don't know if Canada has planned parenthood but they have to have something of the equivalent. If not, definitely try going to a public school to ask if you can talk to a counselor or social worker who can point you in the right direction. Both should have very thorough knowledge on the topic when trying to find help for families who may be struggling financially. If you don't want to go in to a school try emailing first- that will probably be much easier, actually!



I'm sorry that your family is reacting that way. I hope you can find people who will love and support you and your baby. You should know that nobody deserves to be treated that way, even if they disagree with your choice. Hang in there and keep doing what you feel is best for your child.



So sorry youre going through this, but i can relate on some level. I just got engaged to my boyfriend of 5 years a few months before we got the news! Of course we were shocked but extremely happy, we love each other my family loves him. When i told my parents my dad was very happy while my mom was so upset she didnt respond. I had to cry to my sisters, who were so happy, and they talked to her. Now she is super happy and involved with everything but i understand the hurt youre feeling. Keep your head up and do what is best for you and your baby.



I'm sorry, I understand that they don't like him but this is your child and your life. I would do everything possible tho love out. Rent a room from someone, as a single mother you should be able to get help. If they are not onboard then they don't have to be apart of your family.



I'm so sorry you're going through all of this. It adds stress on you and the baby, which is never good.

Of course I can't put my finger on why they're reacting this way. Perhaps they're still in shock? One thing I've learned is this: when people are bitter and angry, they're usually afraid and/or hurt. Have you ever heard the term "hurting people hurt people?" I've found that to be true. Parents have certain ideas about what their kids will do, and how their lives will turn out. When that's tipped upside down, and they are not in control of the situation, attitudes can get a little wonky. As a mom of three teen sons, I can assure you that they love you and want what's best for you. Yes, they aren't showing that in a good way, and yes, they're driving a wedge between the family. That's true. 

Maybe give them some time to simmer down and process what's happened. Have you let them know how much this hurts you? Maybe if they knew it's hurting you, it would help. And maybe if they knew your plans to care for the child, it would also help. I have a sneaky suspicion they'll absolutely love your child once it's born. If not, you'll love the baby enough for all of you.

You may want to connect with optionline.org. They're really good about connecting you with resources in your area. Reach out for help...it's definitely available to you.

Praying for you and your family...



I'm not sure what part of Canada you're in, but I googled "planned parenthood Ontario" and a bunch of resources came up.