Over the last 30 years, we have treated lots of patients who have used donor eggs to have a baby. The vast majority of these patients are extremely happy with their decision, and many have come back for a second baby, in order to complete their family.

This is especially true when they have chosen that decision for themselves, for purely selfish reasons. They decided , "Yes, this is what we're happy to do, because I want to experience the joy of pregnancy and the happiness of bringing up a baby, and I'm not hung up about whose DNA it is."

On the other hand, there are lots of infertile couples who accept the option of donor eggs very reluctantly. Their justification is, "Well, what else can I do? This is the only option available. It's better than adoption, so I'm willing to compromise. I don't want to keep my husband unhappy," or, "My mother in law is forcing me to do it."

I don't think it's a good idea to use donor eggs if you think of it as being your second best option, or if it's one you're not comfortable with, and is being forced down your throat because of family pressures.

If you do that, you're not going to be happy, and you're not going to be able to bring up your child happily either.

You are the most important decision maker and you need to make a decision you are at peace with !




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