Sunday, December 2, 2018

Sex: Always, Extremely, and Profoundly





When Do You Use It



How Graphic Do You Get


(explicit below)


How Does It Change Your Characters


As if there’d been any thinking involved.

But later
“It’s not so easy as that.” 
“Love doesn’t solve everything.” 


  1. Your sex scenes are amazing, whether they are in an erotic-focused book, or your lovely fantasy stories. I love that they run the gamut of emotional involvement, not just the "typical" touch, escalation, SEX!, cuddle.

    1. Thank you!! I'm so honored that you think so :-)

  2. Is there an industry standard about sex scenes in books? Like how descriptive one could truly go with a scean? I also notice you like to do teasers of same sex sex is there a reason you like to do that in your stories? Would you ever consider writing a same sex relationship into one of your stories?

    1. There's not really an industry standard, no. I'm not sure how you would break it down and apply it. I do same-sex teasers? How so? I mean, I include the face that people are homosexual or bisexual in my worlds, to reflect the spectrum of humanity - is that what you're getting at? As for writing it... maybe? I'm pretty far down the het scale, so I'm not sure I'd write it well. But I have friends who've encouraged me and promised to sensitivity read, so it could happen!

    2. Thank you for replaying. Yes you answered my question. If you do decide to write a same sex scene I 'm sure it will be completely amazing. Be Brave 😊

    3. Thank you - though it's less about being brave than wanting to respect an experience that's very real for many people and that I've never had. :-)

  3. Thank you for your post. I, too, use sex - although not erotica - in my books, because real grown-ass humans (and aliens I suspect) have sex and enjoy it. The sex is always a pivot-point in the plot (else, why use it?). However, I am getting pushback from readers. I guess YA books have conditioned people into thinking there can only be smoldering looks and longing in plots? I dunno. How do you handle criticism, if you encounter it?

    1. Mostly I ignore it. There will always be critics. I've found that the people who complain about the sex are the loud voices, but that doesn't make their opinions more valid. The people who like it are just happily reading. :-) Emphasize that your books are YA and move on!

  4. Oh I love these snippets. Nice, nice, nice.