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Just Jane: I'm being eaten alive by my girl

MY new girlfriend is sparky and clever, but is the controlling type

TOO QUICK: He's not ready to settle down yet but his pushy girlfriend is getting carried away (Pic: Getty)

We've only been together a few weeks, but it already feels like she's taking over my life.

I leave work and she's waiting outside for me, even though we haven't agreed to meet up.

She tells me what to wear, what to drink and who to hang out with. The other morning I woke up at 5am and she was already in my bedroom. She'd got my flatmate to let her in as a surprise. My room is already full of her stuff even though she actually lives with her sister and I know she's told mutual friends we're thinking about getting engaged!

Miffed We're not. The number of sexts, breathy calls and social media messages from her are off the scale too.

She's employed in a local office and I don't know how she gets any work done when she's constantly sending stuff to me.

Needless to say, she gets miffed when I don't reply straight away.

The other day I caught her chatting to my mum on my phone. She'd memorised my passcode and rung up my mum to talk about Christmas. I could hear her discussing presents and food and where we'd all be staying.

My new girlfriend is sparky and clever, but is the controlling type (Pic: Getty)

The thing is, she and I haven't even mentioned spending Christmas together. I thought she was going to her parents.

She seems to assume that we will be together for ever, buy a big house and have loads of children.

Any time I ask her to hold her horses, she looks at me as if I'm being awkward.

Don't get me wrong - I think she's great and our sex life is wild, but I don't see myself settling down until I'm over 40.

What she doesn't know is that I've already been married and divorced and I didn't much like it the first time around.

JANE SAYS: Your intense girlfriend is clearly loving this new relationship.

She's excited and fired up and thinks you're the bee's knees, but you cannot allow her to overwhelm or control you.

She needs to hear that you have a job to do and need to be able to get on with earning a crust. Also, turning up unannounced at all hours isn't necessarily appropriate because sometimes you need your own space and time.

Some might consider a surprise bedroom visit at 5am a tiny bit creepy - or even desperate.

Unless you tell her everything has to change if you're going to stay together, then you're going to become seriously hacked off.

Girlfriend tells people we're engaged when we're not (Pic: Getty)

Be honest with her about your past experience so she knows exactly where she stands and what you're thinking.

Insist she slows down, respects your position and agrees to take one day at a time. The fact is you hardly know each other and you're running before you can walk.

Trust your instincts and if you genuinely believe she's in danger of consuming you whole, then end this relationship.

We're all different in what we want and expect from a partner and you have to be true to yourself in telling her that she's frequently a little too hot to handle.