Wednesday, February 20, 2019

I feel your pain

I've been in a melancholy mood most of the day. My calendar dinged to remind me, but I remembered that today is the anniversary of my mother's death. She died on February 20 2012.

I was hard losing a father, but after my father was gone, my mother was like the anchor for the family. The holidays still orbited around her even when she was frail. 

The day we buried her it felt as if my boat became untethered and I was set adrift. I still feel that way at times. 

When people lose their mothers, I never tell them I know how they feel. No one can understand the relationship someone has with a parent. What I do say is that I feel your pain. And that is the truth.


  1. What a sweet photo. A big hug for you today.

  2. So very true Rick. Thank you for sharing, yes, and a big hug for you too.

  3. I love that picture of you with your mom. When I lost my mom, just a little over a year ago (January 15), I felt I was an orphan and felt very much alone.

  4. What a beautiful photo of your mother and you together. Our life is never the same after we loose someone we love, especially a mother, a father or a child. Nothing is ever the same, at gatherings, at meal time, at holiday time. My mom's house where everyone met every year was sold so even our gathering place has changed.

    A big hug for you today.

  5. YEP! you state a fact here, and facts cannot be ignored. There is no feeling like that between a child and a loving mother.
    Sending some love from Florida,(beautiful day here!)
    Sherry & jack

  6. Precious photo Rick! You look like her. I have never felt the pain of losing a parent and I dread that day. One thing Mothers never teach us is how to live without them.

  7. I was a Daddy's girl so I was heart-broken when he died. But I still had my mother. When she died years later I was suddenly orphaned and I felt like an orphan. It never completely goes away.

  8. Such a tender son-mother picture!
    Only when we lose them do we fully feel what we had, and what they (parents) meant to us.
    There are many famous songs , in different languages, relating to Mother (Mama). Each of us has his inner, personal song and praise about ours that we carry along our life.

  9. Precious image! Some days I, too, feel rudderless.

  10. They did so much for us unconditionally!

  11. What a tender moment.....and a treasure. My Dad passed away over 10 years ago, but my Mom is still hanging in. I have thought of how I would feel if she wasn't here anymore, and can't imagine it (she has had some serious medical issues). Mostly I think I will feel untethered and set adrift.


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