Groom refuses to invite his younger child to his upcoming wedding due to fiancée

By Jo Abi|

A groom is under fire for agreeing not to invite his younger child to his upcoming wedding because his fiancée "does not really care for young children."

The groom explains in a post on Reddit's Wedding Shaming thread: "I (46M) am getting married to my fiancée (39F), we have been together for three years. I have two daughters (18F, 9F) from previous relationships. My youngest's mother left when she was six."

He says his fiancée is a "very sophisticated person" with "exquisite tastes."

"She also does not really care for young children and this has created tension between her and my youngest daughter. While our plans have been delayed due to global circumstances, our plans to get married are finally going ahead. It's going to be a very lavish and expensive wedding. Due to the nature of the wedding and my fiancée's preferences, our wedding is also going to be child'free."

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The groom's choice has been shared on Reddit's Wedding Shaming thread. (Reddit)

He says the couple will, however, be inviting his oldest daughter: "She is no longer a child and because, unlike my youngest, her and my fiancée get along well."

The groom didn't explain the situation to his youngest daughter either, claiming she expected to attend the wedding and tried to "tag along" with the man's fiancée and oldest daughter when they went dress shopping "because she thought she was going to need a dress too."

"I explained to her that the wedding was going to be for adults only and that she wouldn't be attending."

"Due to the nature of the wedding and my fiancée's preferences, our wedding is also going to be child free."

His youngest daughter started crying and getting mad, which "stressed out" the bride-to-be, and has been "distressed about this for days and hasn't let it go."

When the man's parents came for a visit and spoke with his youngest daughter, she told them what had happened and they asked the groom for "clarification of the situation." He explained his youngest daughter wouldn't be attending the wedding "because the child free rule applied to her as well."

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His youngest daughter is distraught but the groom is sticking to his decision. (Reddit)

"Besides, this wedding would not be suitable for a child and I don't want my fiancée to have to deal with my daughter on the most important day of her life," he writes. "My parents told me I was being a terrible father by prioritising my fiancée over my daughter and that on the day of the wedding they would take my daughter out for a special day, which means they wouldn't be at the wedding."

At this point the groom told his parents that even if they didn't attend his wedding, he wouldn't be allowing them to take his daughter out for a special day.

"This has become a bigger conflict than I intended," the clueless groom writes.

"My fiancée and I both think we're in the right for wanting a child free wedding, but it appears I may lose my parents from the wedding over this and I want to know if I'm in the right or not."

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The couple are planning a child free event and this unfortunately includes the groom's youngest daughter. (Getty Images/Tetra images RF)

Followers of this Reddit post haven't pulled any punches.

"The fiancée doesn't want the child in the wedding because she doesn't even want the girl in their lives. I feel so sorry for that little girl," one writes.

"Hopefully the grandparents are nice enough to take care of her while her dad is off being a f--king idiot."

Another says, "Assuming his whole family is going to attend the wedding where is the nine-year-old supposed to go while everyone at the wedding? That is just awful, isolating a nine-year-old just because his soon-to-be wife doesn't like children."

One person makes the very good point that the bride-to-be is an adult and the youngest daughter is a child, so it is up to the fiancée to "suck it up."

"I don't understand why SHE is marrying someone with children if she actively dislikes them," they write. "I mean the kid will be living with them it sounds like. And not inviting her to the wedding will just make that co-habitation more awkward. The fiancé is an adult…she should make some concessions and suck it up. It's her choice, the little girl has no choice."

One follower jokes, "The father's original plan was probably just to lock the nine-year-old in a broom closet on the day of the wedding with a bottle of water and a granola bar."

"He KNOWS he is in the wrong. That's why he is posting on r/aita," another writes. "He is looking for validation so he can go on with this shitty behaviour with a clear conscience.

"Also if this is how the marriage starts I can see it being just great for everyone who is not his new wife/s. And guess who will be walking the grown up nine-year-old down the aisle in a few years? My guess is not him."

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