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Dealing With Insecure Women

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She's too leechy : She needs to be in your presence at all times. Everything about her life revolves around your plans. If she's not standing beside you, then she's on the phone with you 24/7.

Constant state of paranoia: Anything you do causes her to become suspicious and prompts the following questions; "Why are you going to the gym? Why did you get a haircut? Why did you buy new underwear? Why did you shave? Why did you brush your teeth? Why are you taking a shower? Why are you so happy? Do you still love me? Why are you breathing?" You get the point.

She requires daily reports: She expects you to call her every hour of the day, and if you forget or miss a call, then you'll have a lot of explaining to do.

Investigative skills: When you come home from a night out with the boys, she asks for every minute detail... including how many drinks you had, how quickly you drank them and who paid each time.

Coincidental surprises: Last month, she happened to show up at the same restaurant you happened to be conducting a business dinner at. Two weeks ago, she "unexpectedly" went to the same movie you did, Attack Of The Killer Muscle Cars. And this week, she just happened to get tickets to the same hockey game that you and your buddy are going to. Can you believe the luck? She even got a seat right beside yours. Tell me you don't want your mommy...

No backbone: She never has an opinion of her own, never makes plans without consulting you, or always changes her mind in order to agree with you. Low self-esteem can also have a detrimental effect on relationships if one partner depends greatly on the other to maintain their self-image or hold an opinion of their own.

High state of alert: Every time a beautiful woman walks past you, your girlfriend looks in your direction to see if you noticed her. And if you did, God help us all.

why women are insecure

Before you decide to jump out of an otherwise perfect relationship, consider helping her get over her insecurity. Maybe you're doing something to make her insecure, and you just don't realize it. Maybe something happened in her past that makes her distrust men. If you can understand why she's insecure, then you can be more patient and help her get over her worries.

Early experiences greatly impact our beliefs. For example, abusive parents, abusive spouses/partners, neglect, or abandonment can foster beliefs that influence one's self-esteem throughout life. It may arise from ambivalent or critical parenting, or as a result of later life experiences. It can even result from their physical appearance or their social surroundings.

Identifying a "cause" is not necessary in order to obtain help. The important thing is that you realize there is a problem and take the necessary steps to solve it.

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