Jul 9, 2012

The art of balancing friends, family, dogs, food, fun, Twilight movies, sickness, work, babies, etc.

So I was all set to write a post about my whole weekend, but something sparked this post in my mind.

My weekend was a freakin blast first of all.  I spent with some of my favorite people and boy did we have fun. We went to the lake on Saturday when it was 100 degrees, but thankfully, our shaded spot didn't make it feel like that. We cooked and ate a lot. I took no pictures. FAIL.

But, what I really want to talk about is BALANCE.  Balance as in everything you do in life.

This is not an easy task to complete.  It's hard. Like mother effin hard.  But it is something that you should always be working on.  Seems that some people forget about balance.  I hope you realize that when you forget about keeping a healthy balance, you lose one side of it. Sometimes, when that side of the scale is lost, it might not come back.

So, I think the hubs and I balance our life out pretty well.  Now, everyone has their opinion and I am sure some people think we don't balance our lives pretty well, which is fine.  But what we should always remember is that we don't know what goes on behind closed doors.  Even if you're the bestest of friends, let's face it, us humans don't give up everything. It's our nature.

We have TONS of close friends.  I guess we dont' think we should only have a few close friends. Or maybe we just got lucky with a ton of close friends who matter in our lives.  Now, it's always a juggling act when trying to spread our love with all of our close friends.  Yes, we have a circle that we always hang out with, but we also shy away from the circle to balance it out with our other close friends.  Our friends come from all walks of life as well- they live close, live far, married with kids, married without kids, single, in a relationship, going through good times, going through bad times, etc. We always try to keep that in mind. Just because you have a set of friends that are not in the same spot as you, doesn't mean you should shun them away.  I call it equal opportunity. 

The same goes for balance your work life as well.  I think this is even harder and I am still trying to figure this one out.  But slowly and surely, I am getting there.  When work sucks major balls, don't bring it home.  Leave it at that door!  Easier said than done, I KNOW, but it can be done.  Apply the same rules at work too.  Let's not assume we know what the other person's job is, because in reality, we don't.  Their boss can be slamming them with work left and right while your boss is a little more lenient.  Everyone has their work style.  Let them be and worry about your job.  In the end, your performance is what determines your capability. 

EVERYONE IS BUSY.  But remember, you make yourself busy.  You can always say no.  I am the queen of being busy.  We are always doing this and doing that.  Some people may see it as us not prioritizing and living our life the way they THINK we should.  But come on people, again, you have no idea what happens behind closed doors.  So who are we to say "well, they should be doing this or doing that...".  I will admit, I sometimes do this as well.  But I try to remind myself all the time to not judge or think I know what is going on. Not an easy thing to do, but it is DOABLE. 

So, I challenge you today to map out your life, and see where the scale has tipped over too much.  Go out and pick up those lost pieces and try to put them back on the scale.  Because sometimes, those pieces are the reasons we are in life at this present moment.  And that is something that no one forgets.

Happy balancing. 
~*~Mrs. Newlywed Giggles~*~


Britt said...

Totally agree! I actually wrote about this a little for tomorrow's post. It's so hard but you can definitely make it work!

Kathryn said...

I struggle with this all the time. It is so hard!

Julie said...

My hubby and I are the exact same!!

Unknown said...

Balance is hard, but especially in marriage it is so important. I struggle with balance A LOT! Great post.

Celia Houck said...

Great post! =) I think we do a pretty good job with balancing our lives, but sometimes it is hard to fit everyone and everything in. Just do your best =)