Your Ideal Life Trajectory (Journaling Exercise)

Your Ideal Life Trajectory (Journaling Exercise)

            by Michal Korzonek | Last Updated: July 18, 2021

You’re about to die.

Just before drawing your final breath, you get to see a film depicting the story of your life. As you go back down the memory lane, re-witnessing all the experiences that made you *you*, you realise that there is also a second film.

A film where you lived the life you really wanted to.

Your ideal life.

While nothing is ever perfect, the purpose of the journaling exercise I’m about to share with you, is to identify possible adjustments you could make to your life right now, that would bring you closer to living your ideal life.

We’ll begin by reflecting on your current life, then move to envisioning how your ideal life could look like (as you see it from the present), and finally, focus on where the real opportunity is: the space separating these two lives to reflect on how you could reduce the gap.

To make it easier, imagine your current and ideal life as two trajectories:


The goal of this exercise is not necessarily to dramatically change your life. The key is to find adjustments (no matter how small) that you could actually make right now, to move closer to your ideal life.

Exercise Instructions

The exercise takes around 20 minutes. All you need is a journal, or a piece of paper.

You can either journal along with the guided video I made for you (see below), or follow the instructions on your own.

Here’s how it works:

  1. Moment of grounding, to mindfully transition into the exercise eg. 10 conscious breaths or meditative drawing (1m).
  2. Journal set up (optional, but recommended), see the image below (1m).
  3. Journal: What is my current life trajectory? If I keep going, where am I likely to end up? (5m)
  4. Journal: If I’d start living my ideal life today, what would my life look like? Where could this new trajectory take me? (7m)
  5. Quickly read through your your two trajectories and underline anything that stands out (3m)
  6. Journal: What adjustments (big or small) could I make to my current life to make it closer to my ideal life trajectory? (3m)

Here’s how you could setup your journal for the exercise:

You can then flip the page to write in each section, like this:

Note that this is just how I like to do this exercise. Feel free to use a layout that makes sense for you.

Guided Exercise Video

The video guiding you through this exercise is available for our Patrons.

Questions and Insights

Here are some of the things that came up for me during this exercise:

If you’re curious how I’ll put these insights into action, you can track my progress through my moonly review and/or digital journal.

And if you’d like to share your insights, I’d be delighted to hear from you!

One (Big) Tip To Boost This Exercise

Whether you like it or not, everything, including your idea of what an ideal life is for you, is constantly changing.

That’s why, while it’s useful to do this exercise once, it’s definitely more effective to implement it into your regular review practice.

If you’d like our help to stay on track towards your ideal life, then consider becoming our Patreon. You’ll get immediate access to our favourite journaling tools, as well as facilitated sessions where we explore them together and help each other grow.

Here’s what one of our participants said about our regular Relational Weekly Review:

“For me, the single most valuable thing that Michal and Silvia are doing is the Relational Weekly Reviews. It has been so pivotal for me, and it really shifted how on top of things I feel, and how I feel about what I’ve actually accomplished. I’ve never done this practice before and it’s been highly effective.”

We hope to see you there ☀️.

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