As parents we can certainly do the things you suggest, change our own attitude and thus behaviour towards and within our own individual situations, but we cannot change the behaviour of the other parents, and without that happening, the prospects for children involved remain bleak. If research suggests that reversal of residency is not effective in ‘hybrid' cases, then I can accept that, but I am still left confused wondering what can realistically be done to bring about better outcomes for the children involved?