move load state dict after initialize parallel state in nlp_model
Look good to me :+1:

Can you apply a similar `sharded_state_dict` delay here? https://github.com/NVIDIA/NeMo/blob/main/nemo/collections/nlp/parts/nlp_overrides.py#L947 @mikolajblaz 
> Look good to me 👍
> 
> Can you apply a similar `sharded_state_dict` delay here? https://github.com/NVIDIA/NeMo/blob/main/nemo/collections/nlp/parts/nlp_overrides.py#L947

Done, thanks for review.
 @ericharper or @mikolajblaz

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# What does this PR do ?

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Move loading sharded state dict after initialize parallel state.

Addresses https://github.com/NVIDIA/NeMo/issues/8460

Notes:
- see the original issue for more details
- unsure if this is the correct approach, or if there are downstream impacts for this change
- This fix also resolves issues when running SFT using NeMo-Aligner (https://github.com/NVIDIA/NeMo-Aligner/blob/main/examples/nlp/gpt/train_gpt_sft.py) loading from a distributed ckpt directly instead of legacy or .nemo

```
Traceback (most recent call last):
  File "train_sft.py", line 64, in main
    ptl_model, updated_cfg = load_megatron_model(GPTSFTModel, cfg, trainer, additional_keys=additional_keys)
  File "/workspace/NeMo/nemo/collections/nlp/models/nlp_model.py", line 397, in load_from_checkpoint
    checkpoint = dist_checkpointing.load(sharded_state_dict=checkpoint, checkpoint_dir=checkpoint_dir)
  File "/workspace/Megatron-LM/megatron/core/dist_checkpointing/serialization.py", line 133, in load
    validate_sharding_integrity(nested_values(sharded_state_dict))
  File "/workspace/Megatron-LM/megatron/core/dist_checkpointing/serialization.py", line 437, in validate_sharding_integrity
    _validate_sharding_for_key(shardings)
  File "/workspace/Megatron-LM/megatron/core/dist_checkpointing/serialization.py", line 475, in _validate_sharding_for_key
    raise CheckpointingException(f'Invalid access pattern for {rank_sharding[0][1]}')
megatron.core.dist_checkpointing.core.CheckpointingException: Invalid access pattern for ShardedTensor(key='model.embedding.word_embeddings.weight')
```

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nlp/language_modeling

# Changelog 
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# Usage
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For the nemo aligner SFT use case:

1. change the implementation of nemo_aligner.models.nlp.gpt.gpt_sft_model.GPTSFTModel like so
```python
from omegaconf import DictConfig
from pytorch_lightning.trainer.trainer import Trainer

from nemo_aligner.models.nlp.gpt.gpt_sft_model import GPTSFTModel

from torch.nn.modules.module import Module


class _GPTSFTModel(GPTSFTModel):
    """
    Megatron GPT Supervised Fine-Tuning, support load from mcore distributed ckpt.
    """

    def __init__(self, cfg: DictConfig, trainer: Trainer):
        super().__init__(cfg, trainer=trainer)

    def load_state_dict(self, state_dict, strict: bool = True):
        if self.use_peft and self.setup_complete:
            super().load_state_dict(state_dict, strict=strict)
        else:
            if self.mcore_gpt and not self.use_fsdp:
                # mcore distributed checkpoint
                # we defer loading the state_dict until the class has been initialized
                return Module.load_state_dict(self, state_dict, strict=False)
            else:
                super().load_state_dict(state_dict, strict=strict)
```
2. Load the checkpoint overriding the files like so
```python
from fsspec.implementations.local import LocalFileSystem


def load_from_checkpoint_dir(cfg, trainer, modify_confg_fn, checkpoint_logger=None):
    cls = _GPTSFTModel # from above
    app_state = AppState()
    if cfg.model.tensor_model_parallel_size > 1 or cfg.model.pipeline_model_parallel_size > 1:
        app_state.model_parallel_size = (
            cfg.model.tensor_model_parallel_size * cfg.model.pipeline_model_parallel_size * cfg.get("expert_model_parallel_size", 1)
        )
        app_state.tensor_model_parallel_size = cfg.model.tensor_model_parallel_size
        app_state.pipeline_model_parallel_size = cfg.model.pipeline_model_parallel_size
        app_state.expert_model_parallel_size = cfg.get("expert_model_parallel_size", 1)
        (
            app_state.tensor_model_parallel_rank,
            app_state.pipeline_model_parallel_rank,
            app_state.expert_model_parallel_rank,
            app_state.model_parallel_size,
            app_state.data_parallel_size,
            app_state.pipeline_model_parallel_split_rank,
            app_state.virtual_pipeline_model_parallel_rank,
        ) = fake_initialize_model_parallel(
            world_size=app_state.model_parallel_size,
            rank=trainer.global_rank,
            tensor_model_parallel_size_=cfg.model.tensor_model_parallel_size,
            pipeline_model_parallel_size_=cfg.model.pipeline_model_parallel_size,
            pipeline_model_parallel_split_rank_=cfg.model.get("pipeline_model_parallel_split_rank", None),
            expert_model_parallel_size_=cfg.get("expert_model_parallel_size", 1),
        )
    checkpoint_path = os.path.join(
        cfg.model.pretrained_checkpoint.checkpoint_dir,
        cfg.model.pretrained_checkpoint.checkpoint_name,
    )

    if not os.path.isdir(checkpoint_path):
        # legacy checkpoint needs model parallel rank injection
        checkpoint_path = inject_model_parallel_rank(checkpoint_path)
    fs = LocalFileSystem()
    with fs.open(cfg.model.pretrained_checkpoint.hparams_file, "r") as fin:
        hparams_file = OmegaConf.load(fin)
    gpt_cfg = modify_confg_fn(hparams_file.cfg, cfg, add_cfg_to_tree=True)
    with tempfile.NamedTemporaryFile(suffix=".yaml") as f:
        OmegaConf.save(config=gpt_cfg, f=f.name)
        model = cls.load_from_checkpoint(checkpoint_path=checkpoint_path, trainer=trainer, hparams_file=f.name)
        return model, gpt_cfg
```
3. in the config, resume the training from a dist ckpt dir:
```
model:
  pretrained_checkpoint:
    checkpoint_dir: /experiments/example_gpt_model_A/checkpoints/
    checkpoint_name: megatron_gpt--val_loss=1.23-step=5000-consumed_samples=100000.0
    hparams_file: /hparams.yaml
```
* this hparams file, had to manually create as by default hparams.yaml is not saved with dist ckpt format last I checked. It seems like the behavior is to only create and store with .nemo or the legacy pp tp partition format with the PTL callback. Unrelated, but it might be nice to also save the hparams.yaml file when saving a distributed ckpt (not with .nemo)

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