Add option to disable distributed parameters in distributed Adam optimizer
# What does this PR do ?

Add an option to disable distributed parameters in the distributed Adam optimizer. This is similar to standard distributed data-parallelism (i.e. with gradient all-reduces), but it takes advantage of the distributed optimizer's support for overlapping communication with backward compute.

**Collection**: NLP

# Changelog 
- Add option to disabled distributed parameters in the distributed Adam optimizer

# Usage

Set the optimizer to `distributed_fused_adam` with `disable_distributed_parameters: True` in the config file:

https://github.com/NVIDIA/NeMo/blob/80cd1c135f4cf01aa04e62aa4c60fb130c889831/examples/nlp/language_modeling/conf/megatron_gpt_config.yaml#L193

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# Additional Information
* Orthogonal to https://github.com/NVIDIA/NeMo/pull/5560 and https://github.com/NVIDIA/NeMo/pull/5684.
